It’s Cool to be an Introvert

It’s Cool to be an Introvert

Are you an extrovert or an introvert? Introversion and extroversion are personality traits, but is it better to be one or the other? In this post, we will discuss the benefits (why it’s cool to be an introvert) and drawbacks of being an introvert.

Introvert or Extrovert?

Merriam Windsor defines an introvert as a typically reserved or quiet person who tends to be introspective and enjoys spending time alone. While an extrovert is defined as a typically gregarious and unreserved person who enjoys and seeks social interaction.

In simple terms, an introvert finds energy and recharges from spending time alone while an extrovert find energy and recharges by spending time with others.

What are the benefits of being an introvert?

There are many benefits to being an introvert. In general, most introverts have the:

Ability to focus

    Introverts are good at focusing on tasks for extended periods of time without becoming easily distracted by external stimuli. Sometimes they can block the outside world and become totally engrossed in a task, especially if it is one they love.

    Creative thinking

      Many introverts have a rich inner world, which can lead to creative insights and ideas. A lot of actors, writers and musicians claim to be introverted.

      Being alone for a while is dangerous.

      It’s addicting.

      Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t want to deal with people.

      Tom Hardy

      Strong listening skills

        Introverts are good listeners, as they are often more interested in what others say than in talking about themselves. In a social situation, they will learn more about the attendee than extroverts.

        Independence

          Introverts enjoy spending time alone and are comfortable with solitude, which can lead to a strong sense of independence. They often feel drained or overwhelmed after extended periods of social interaction, and need to recharge their energy by being alone or engaging in solitary activities.

          I don’t say no because I’m so busy.
          I say no because I don’t want to be so busy.
          Courtney Carver

          Depth of relationships

            While introverts may not have a large social circle, they have deeper, more meaningful relationships with the people they spend time with.

            Analytical thinking

              Introverts focus on their inner thoughts and feelings so they often excel at analytical thinking, as they are more likely to mull over complex problems and consider multiple perspectives before concluding.

              Lower risk-taking behavior

                Introverts are less likely to engage in risky behavior, as they tend to be more cautious and deliberate in their decision-making.

                What are the drawbacks of being an introvert?

                While there are many benefits to being an introvert, there are also some potential drawbacks, including:

                Social isolation

                Introverts may struggle to build and maintain social connections, which can lead to feelings of loneliness and isolation.

                Misunderstood by others

                Because introverts are quieter and more reserved than extroverts, some people may think they are unfriendly or uninterested. But they are not. Introverts are not shy or anti-social; they simply prefer more quiet and reflective activities and may find it difficult to assert themselves in large social settings.

                Over Thinking

                Because introverts spend a lot of time in their own heads, they may be more prone to over thinking or getting stuck in negative thought patterns.

                Don’t lie to an over thinker.
                It never ends well.
                Such people have trained their brains to look for holes in a story.

                If shit doesn’t make sense, they will think about it over and over and over until it makes sense.

                I’m that person.
                Unknown Author

                Anxiety

                Introverts may be more prone to anxiety or social anxiety, as they may feel uncomfortable or overwhelmed in social situations.

                Burnout

                Introverts may be more prone to burnout, as they can easily become exhausted by extended periods of social interaction or stimulation.

                Famous Introverts

                Here are a few famous introverted people that you may have heard about:

                 

                • Albert Einstein
                • Bill Gates
                • Eleanor Roosevelt
                • Charles Darwin
                • Barack Obama
                • Emma Watson
                • Meryl Streep
                • Michael Jordan
                • Mahatma Gandhi
                • Rosa Parks
                • Sir Isaac Newton
                • Mark Zuckerberg
                • Steven Spielberg

                  My Life as an Introvert

                  For a long time, I hated the fact that I am an introvert. Coming from a family of extroverts, I always felt like a square peg trying to fit into a round hole. It took me years of struggling to accept myself the way I am. I’d ask myself:

                  • Why are you different?
                  • Why can’t you talk like a normal person?
                  • Why can’t you communicate what you are trying to say?
                  • Why are you so scattered?
                  • Why can’t you be like everyone else?

                  In school, things like “group work” or “pick a partner” were horrifying gut wrenching moments.

                  The thought of being embarrassed in public or being centred out would cause my heart to race for hours. I was so good at hiding my anxiety and panic attacks that no one would even notice. I also suffer from overthinking and anxiety which not all introverts have.

                  But now… I am good with being an introvert. It’s part of who I am.

                  I like to do solitary things.
                  I feel at peace when I am alone (not that I don’t like other people, I do).
                  I am creative.

                  I am me.

                   

                  Introvert Problems

                  There is a funny account I follow on Twitter called Introvert Problems, check out some of their posts below.

                   

                  Final Thoughts

                  There are benefits and drawbacks to introversion, the same as extroversion. Are you an introvert? Let me know in the comments.

                   

                  Until next time
                  Frankie

                  Feature photo by Pexels.

                  5 Ways to Set and Achieve Your New Year Resolutions

                  5 Ways to Set and Achieve Your New Year Resolutions

                  Do you set new year’s resolutions? January is the perfect time to start fresh and decide what you achieve or change. It might be eating healthy, working out, taking up a new hobby, or learning something new. While new year’s resolutions can be fun to choose, they rarely stick.

                  If you want to stick to them this year, the number one most important thing to do is keep them realistic and attainable. You can’t just wish your resolutions into reality, it doesn’t work that way. Here are some tips for setting realistic resolutions that you will actually stick to.

                  Why Do New Year’s Resolutions Fail?

                  The reason most new year’s resolutions fail isn’t because people can’t achieve them, but because they don’t have a plan. When you treat resolutions like goals, then set a plan to achieve them, then you have a much higher chance of success.

                  1. Set SMART Goals

                  Treat your resolutions like goals by using the popular SMART method for creating goals you will stick to. This acronym was created in 1981 and is still used today. SMART stands for Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely.

                  Specific
                  You should be able to be specific and write details about the goal and how you will achieve it.
                  Measurable
                  How can you track the progress of your resolution?
                  Achievable
                  Set resolutions and goals that can be achieved within a set time frame.
                  Realistic
                  Make sure the goal is something that is attainable to you.
                  Timely
                  Do you know how long your goal will take, and can you choose a completion date?

                  This means you want to set new years’ resolutions that are

                  • specific and detailed
                  • can be measured with the progress
                  • are realistically achievable
                  • relevant to the goals you have for your life
                  • have a time when they should be completed

                  2. Have a Plan of Attack

                  Once you have made sure your resolutions fit all the SMART categories, you can then create a plan to work toward those goals and accomplish them before the year is over.

                  For a realistic new year’s resolution, you want to start big, but then break it down into actionable steps. Many people want to lose weight or get fit as their resolution, which is a great goal, but it is too broad and often too grand of a goal.

                  If my resolution was to write an epic Science Fiction book with 500,000 words in one year, that is too big to start. I would need to break it down by month (41,666 words per month) and then break it down further into weeks (9615 words per week) or days (1369 words per day). When you break your goals down into mini actions, you complete on a daily or weekly basis throughout the year; it becomes much easier to achieve.

                  For every resolution, ensure they are realistic and attainable and be specific about what it is and how you can get it done. This is where you take the time to write out exactly what you need to do and when in order to achieve your resolution. It is where you discover resolutions are simply goals.

                  A goal without a plan is just a wish.

                  – Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

                  3. Understand WHY You Want Each Resolution

                  Have you ever made a list of things you want to do or achieve, but didn’t really feel excited when writing about it? This is a good sign that you have the wrong intention behind it. You probably thought it was just something you were supposed to do, or you were following along with your friends. If you don’t feel excited in the beginning, you will never gain enough momentum to see it through.

                  4. Pick 3 to 5 Resolutions

                  It’s easy to have a list of 10 or more new years’ resolutions, but can you really focus on that many things at one time? The best thing to do is keep your list short, preferably with no more than 3-5 goals for the year.

                  Choose a few small goals and create a step-by-step plan for each one.

                  5. Start With One Resolution at a Time

                  Try to stick to just one goal at a time, spreading them out the best you can. Similar to not having too many resolutions for one year, you also don’t want too many new things to focus on at one time. This is really just setting yourself up for failure. So decide which you can start with, and try not to begin the next goal until the one previous has been completed or is at least on the right track.

                  Final Thoughts

                  In this post, we discussed 5 steps you can use to achieve your new year’s resolutions. Which one will you try? Let me know in the comments.

                   

                  Until next time
                  Frankie

                  Feature photo by NoName_13 from Pixabay.